[疑難求助] 你曾經是第三者嗎?

jennchl

請問有誰曾經第三者?  我愛上了一個已有女朋友的男人.
, Z# {6 q/ }$ I$ O9 }* y' C  ]. i5 A) s  f1 @  p! H5 r8 ?
和他做了好朋友三年, 最近大家才對大家表白, 才知道大家已經一直喜歡對方但沒有表白.
# u8 r. C0 k6 P! C6 y7 J: t
+ Q( C" E3 i" m# [$ d我們深愛著對方, 可惜不知道應該怎麼辦, 他跟他的女朋友已經十三年了, 並且是同居, 我不是很樂觀, 有時候真的很想要他認真的選擇和決定, 可是我非常害怕聽到一個不想聽的答案, 所以遲遲都沒有問.5.39.217.763 {+ |. l. R/ D

2 G+ m8 o! ~! m以前也會和他的女朋友大家成群的出去, 現在因為他的女朋友感覺到我和這男人的感覺, 所以她很討厭我, 並要這男人跟我斷絕來往.  現在我們只能用有限的時間通通電話和吃飯. 他很失落, 他說他很害怕失去我, 我亦很害怕失去他.1 C, x# M* z3 S% i* ?7 N) S

4 p: U1 \4 o: ?! h5.39.217.76請問大家, 我做錯了, 是否應該退出? 還是主動爭取?

jennchl

any suggestions?

guandesu

愛情沒有對錯,或許只有愛錯

十年一剑

给他限定一个时间，做出选择。

jennchl

I'm so scared of hearing the NO answer....

icceti

are you making a choice or are you letting him make the decision?5.39.217.76* c; K4 n0 H4 w0 e8 S& [
if you truly do not want to leave him then fight.
3 }; O3 a/ v) `; ]at least give it a try.  9 W+ E0 ~* y& _9 V' R: |
but you can't say after a few years of being with you, he won't fall in love with someone else.
( C, k. J2 `8 R. ~3 r7 o公仔箱論壇if you are letting him decide, then give yourself a time limit so you won't be waiting for him for the rest of your life without an answer.
, a" {& O1 \1 l* T- H5 b6 Ba no is better than none.  you'll suffer even more watching them get married, have kids and you are alone by yourself.
" J1 D. j! V* \& |5.39.217.76$ s0 L% b; y  ^& M; @3 A
[ 本帖最後由 icceti 於 2009-4-11 01:01 AM 編輯 ]

tommyjai

i have hear someone told that公仔箱論壇: E8 }1 k/ k8 x! {3 {: N
if u scare to get reject
; L- `  L4 O2 h, H# V4 S6 R; s; gtvb now,tvbnow,bttvbu should reject before it rejects u

xiehuoli

建议你退出吧

beckham07sky

Ask him to make a decision.
- S; X" N6 M6 x9 T3 y% O2 O/ b6 o3 EIf he really care about lost you, he must do that.
6 C1 {% r8 |- [9 e, K公仔箱論壇If not, i think you better leave this self-fish man. Don't love a man not care to your feeling.
4 B: B( ^6 e# N% z  d) U* FTVBNOW 含有熱門話題，最新最快電視，軟體，遊戲，電影，動漫及日常生活及興趣交流等資訊。YOU MUST THINK TO YOUR FURTURE.
! ~; Z. b  \+ e' {% bPlease don't as stupid as me before.% L9 {8 ^' a0 j  A% h/ T! n
GOOD LUCK!!

dream1972

天下何处无“杂草”？何必和人争？十三年的感情，他今天能这样对他目前的女朋友，难保他十三年后“主角”换你当了，所以请三思。。。

xxx728

给他限定一个时间，做出选择。
: W% R2 ~# ^8 w5 h8 [十年一剑 發表於 2009-4-10 08:18 PM

一針見血i agree with that
( x, ]7 r) [3 m: J+ r4 _( d5.39.217.76要理性,不要沉溺於悲劇主角的感覺啊!

kathy1234

其实我也和你一样~也是喜欢一个有女友了的男生~我每次听到他说他和女友出去~或陪女友而没找我~我听到会很失落~
' Z+ s% B) H- l4 f' H4 w# F% F( o但是毕竟我不是他的谁~他既然有女友了~就应该祝福他~
9 `9 K- {# u  c7 X5.39.217.76不应破坏他们的感情~13年的感情不是说完就完的~
: d# G- O8 [9 }: ?% V( M  Q
4 M. w) k' U5 B你好好想吧~如果真的喜欢他~不一定要和他一起~可以祝福他啊~
7 \5 n& U8 K3 r8 r* O/ i或许我的想法与你不同~但这纯属我个人意见啦~公仔箱論壇" W6 n2 Q0 H& O6 F* q8 u7 R/ C

( ^2 y9 x" Y- y* i& g5 Q# S/ k公仔箱論壇别介意~~

1270135208

勇敢点！~~